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However, a study by author James Farrer conducted in Shanghai in showed that over 90 percent of China's intercultural marriages were between a Chinese woman and a foreign man. The reasons for this massive imbalance are quite complex. Intercultural couplehood is where social constructions of power relations by the categories of race, gender and culture play a very prominent role.

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Stereotypes saying that Asian men are effeminate, weak or "modestly hung" could likely be the result of these social constructions. It tends to lead to the conclusion that Western women generally find Asian men unattractive. But in China, a small cult following of those fascinated by foreign women who become romantic with Chinese men existed long before AMWF became a thing on the Internet. Several Chinese mainland TV shows, for instance, were dedicated to the theme. Chinese media displaying an overly positive image of intermarriage is of course not very surprising.

Attitudes toward mixed couples in China have been deemed socially appropriate since the s, according to a study by Finnish scholars Fred Dervin and Minghui Gao. However, AMWF which admittedly sounds like another porn category when you first hear it has the potential to gather an even bigger following than television programming, going far beyond the minority of AMWF couples themselves.

Standing out in America Celebrity Liu Ye, a famous Chinese actor, is married to a French woman, with whom he has two children. His intercultural love and family life has attracted over 50 million followers on his Weibo account. With an increasing number of international students and workers coming to China, along with record-breaking numbers of Chinese now studying abroad, many Chinese men are inevitably falling in love with Western women, and vice versa.

This is exactly what happened to Vicky and Shen Da five years ago. They met in college in New York, where Shen "stood out" because there were literally no Asians in the Texas town she grew up in. Even though Shen had already spent four years in San Francisco, all his friends in the US were Chinese, so his English still wasn't at a level to be able to adequately express his feelings for Vicky. Thus, Vicky was compelled to make the first move. The couple are now living together in Shanghai, Shen working for his family business and Vicky studying Chinese. Apart from language barriers and cultural differences, the troubles they face as a couple are pretty similar to any cohabiting man and woman in the world: Vicky snores during the night and Shen has a hard time apologizing after a fight.

Another AMWF couple, who also studied together in the US, recently stirred up some buzz on social media for openly disclosing anti-Chinese and Japanese nationalist publications found in a Japanese hotel chain. Thank you for turning me onto this. It is very encouraging to me. I too love Japanese culture and would love to visit someday. But I still wish to offer support in the fact that I appreciate you for breaking the stigmas and opening the dialogue. Only in the last few days did I do some decent googling and find out there was an acronym of AMWF and from there I discovered more blogs like yours and great forums like Hey-Ai!

What do you recommend that I do? Or should I just wait? Ask him on a date. My name is Joel. Im an asian boy or islander to some of those. Filipino to be exact. I have always dated within my race or asians only until the past few years. I served the Marine Corps for awhile and opted out to the private sector. I got burned out and wanted to escapem I went to a friends ranch in Montana. There I met this beautiful country girl. She was a sassy classy and smartassy. She blew out the stereotypical within asian stereotype of white women as lazy.

Hell she taught me to mend fences and muck stalls and brushdown horses and saddle them. I taught her the art of long range marksmanship lol. Im now just into white girls. Theyre more adventurous and willing to explore and not close minded. However I cant same the same in reverse. I was once on a dating site and Id say out of 20 white girls only 1 would respond. I wish there were more open people. I loved your story and your blog and your pictures.

I couldnt help but laugh at how your husband has wiping your feet before bed or showering twice a day. Its a cleansiness thing. And you still think they are open minded, based on this one white girl you met?? White American women particularly from the South very close minded or outright racist. Very few like Grace…and most of the AMWW couples are better off living in the Asian country…too much racism against IRs in this country especially in Texas and other areas of the south.

Actually, most of the racism we have experiences as an interracial couple has been in Japan. I think there is this stereotype that Texans are rude, racist, and close minded… but you can find rude, racist, and close minded people in EVERY country. Many more stares, comments, questions in Japan.

You folks are very lucky…Greenville, SC? In Japan there is probably a lot more verbal racism, but little or no violence from what I have seen…been to Japan ten times in the past fifteen years…. Yes, some areas of Texas experience pretty extreme racism. However, we choose not to live in those areas.

Yeah plenty of racism in Asia…however, mostly passive racism, and people get annoyed when I make an example of Athens, GA…when I say that it is a one way street.. When this happens in any electoral district in Japan you can say Asia has caught up with America or at least the US South. Just take a look at how the internet is responding to this guy Julian Blanc , who claims white guys can have sex with as many Japanese girls as they want: Seeing it in real life was something else to my nine year old mind!

I find them hilarious, because their jealousy makes me feel lucky. My dad watched that religiously, even though we lived in California. So I never really developed an interest in it, in fact I kind of just ignored American news and world affairs in general, because I thought, well, what can I do about any of the things I do occasionally hear?

But her on the other hand, she grew up in a family that was very well informed on current affairs and in the beginning stages of our dating, she would mention a few things that she would come across at home watching Colbert with her parents, or even just read about on a news app on her phone. I would never know what to say about anything, and that frequently left me a bit embarrassed.

So with her help, I started paying more attention to what goes on in the world and I actually find it a lot more interesting than I used to when I was in high school. Except when it came to telling the truth about whether or not we did our homework. I realized that I have to change and be honest about everything, or else I would never be truly happy, or find true happiness for that matter.

I already know my dad will not be happy with my choice in my partner. He has expressed many times that he wants me to marry a Chinese or Taiwanese woman. He has tried so many times over my life to brain wash me with story after story of how every single Chinese man that he has known that has married outside of his race has met a tragic end to his marriage, due to infidelity or cultural differences. I will marry because I love, not because of your stupid ass. I love my white friend whom I am dating.

I love the shape of her bones and her personality. I love how she is so different from me and think about things differently than me. She is my role model and I love her. Make it about the person you love and everything, the good, the bad, the ugly that comes with race will disappear. I can understand that. I used to judge the Asian girls that would only date white guys too. So I just smile. At first, I felt a bit awkward about it.

Like, my parents live in Africa. They should and will naturally guide our choices out of their parental love, but not dictate. I find some of the unique features in regards to public acceptance of your relationship to be similar as to how same sex couples disregarding race are currently accepted in the US. Congrats for 5 years! Total population-wise, Asian men married out more than White men. The numbers are much closer than I realized, though.

The gap numbers is not that much, considering that there are a lot more White guys than Asian guys. This is a very misleading way to look at it. It would be much better to directly compare Asian female statistics to Asian male statistics.

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On the other hand, if asked by Japanese women, maybe they would like to date a white guy and really surprised. Maybe concept of romantic love is still not that en masse in Japan? Recently my husband has also been showering 2 times a day and washing his hair each time! It really is a cultural difference, I guess? Well, given the case, perhaps it really is cultural difference: Even if I had short hair, to wash it everyday would be to destroy it… It probably also is difference in hair structure.

Mine is soft and wavy, and reading about rainy season in your blog, I bet mine too will curl up a lot. Thank you for this great blog! I really learned a lot more about life there before going to Tokyo for my first time: What difference would it make it were white girls who caught my eye more? This is an interesting read. In our case the cultural differences are very small — his first language is English which I speak fluently, same religion, same values in life, both cultures are very family-oriented etc.

Dating him has never felt that exotic, we just look really different. We both appreciate each others cultures. About Racism — few people feel very strongly about Asians in Europe, one way or another. My family approved, extended family liked him, in Singapore, and within his family, mixed relationships are common, so his family liked me too. Only stares and comments ranging from weird to mean have been from Chinese here in Britain where we live. Once a whole group of Chinese language students discussed behind us in a restaurant why my husband was with a white girl and that did he think he was too good for his own kind etc.

From that I gather that interracial relationships are still rare in mainland China and Taiwan. Finnish culture has some similarities with Asian ones, so for me his culture is more familiar than many European cultures. Neither of our cultures are famous for suave sophistication: Awwww, thanks for sharing! That was really fun to read! I find the comments from strangers… interesting. I read this a lot and from my own experiences, have found the most racism from white men and asian women. I think in both cases, it really shows their owm insecurities and an inferiority complex mixed in with jealousy.

I find a lot of wm and af think theyre superior and should be too choice, but really they are not. So when someone acts like that, all I see is an entitled, insecure, jealous little person. You both are such a cute and sympathic couple. I had to find out that chinese guys can be indeed very handsome, nice and caring. I returned to the Middle Kingdom only six months later in October , not because of the guys but because I love the country so much, and I hope to travel to China again still in Btw, I also hope that you guys are not affected by typhoon Neoguri.

Awww, thank you so much! The AMWF community is interesting because we can all share our experiences dating like a normal support group, but with a little twist. Most people find themselves a part of it without even realizing it. In any case, best of luck with you travelling! I know this comment is turning out a bit messy, but bare with me. At times it feels a bit impossible when I think about how all the differences just pile up like roadblocks, but then I come across things like your blog, and it makes me so freaking happy I just wanna hug you for existing!

I find myself attracted to tan or darker skin. For me pale skin was always a turn-off. I hope I can find someone like that some day. Most important thing is to be happy. The whole world can crumble and be cynical, rude, insensitive and just plain archaic in its views, as long as we are happy. I found this very interesting! I am an American living in Taiwan. I have been here for about 2 months now. It is a bit of a culture shock for me, especially learning Chinese. I came here for a great job and I will be here for awhile. I live with my co-workers and it is a great setup.

I like one of the guys here very much. He is one of the few people who can speak English. I believe it is a heavy burden on him to take care of me. Back in the US I was a very independent person. Here not so much. We were really close but now not so much, I am not quite sure what happened. I want to learn as much as I can about the culture, but I am not learning as fast as I should? Should my 40 year old brain know it by now? I believe that he thinks I should, am I wrong? So you kind of just have to guess.

I was also very independent in the states — so living in Japan has been good but frustrating at times. Thanks for your reply back! I do believe it is a stepping stone… I also learned yesterday that the men here do not like it when women cry. I am a wimp when I get sick or hurt, it is imprinted in my American brain to cry. I think things will get better, I think I need to be patient but they also have to be patient with me. Do just just keep my head down and mouth shut for now? So hard to tell… Thanks again!! Well not buckets lol!!!!

Hi Grace, Great article…. I hope your article at least causes people to actually think for themselves when it comes to love between all races. As an adopted Korean male growing up in a predominately white small Midwestern town, I actually have mostly dated white girls. I too never realized the greatness of other cultures until I moved to California, so I am just as at fault for having certain stereotypes influence me. I hope you continue to spread your experience and love to the world! I just want to say thank you.

I am an American Women who is attracted to Asian men. But this article helped me realized that everyone else can suck it and I do what I want. Honestly thank you for this. I have a couple other friends who are mostly or only attracted to Asian men and run into all sorts of weird stereotypes. But as soon as you say you only find Asian men attractive, people start freaking out. It it is so true. I try not to let it get to me and I have noticed lately when I do feel down about this issue I find myself reading this article again. And everytime I am so happy you wrote this article.

Bascially asian guys have litte dicks….. Another crucial thing we are shying away from that I have to bring up… how do you, as a man, know so much about penises? In order to make your statement, you must have seen literally billions of penises to have taken a cross average from each race, and compared them with each other. That he is smaller than an asian? But then of course, showing genitals in public is gross indecency.

Just how far is he willing to go for male pride? I realise that this discussion is now half a year old, but maybe someone will come across it in the future the way I did right now and find my comment helpful. First of all, you are a sweet person and opened mind. I am Asian and married to a Burmese woman. We both went to US university for our undergrad so we communicate in American English. But I move on because I married my wife for who she is.

For example, my mother-in-law cooks me Burmese food while she stayed with us in California. I could not eat spicy food at first but later I get used to it. Also, my dad could not speak English so he never had a real conversation with my wife at all. Probably never, but that is okay. Everybody is nice and that is the most important. We are lucky that we are both buddhism, so sometimes I bring religion topics to get them involve. We are expecting a baby and I hope this could bring two family closer.

In my opinion, love is enough to keep our marriage but it has to come from both side. Thanks for sharing and congrats on the upcoming baby! My family in America is very close and involved with each other. Even though I know that, I get so lonely spending extensive periods of time with his inlaws. Thankfully both sets of parents and extended family blessed our relationship and love both of us dearly.

I do wonder if having a child would change things, though. I want your sincere answer about my quastion. Thank you and good luck. Good luck and keep looking. I really like your writing; it sounds very genuine and is so easy to connect to. However I find it hard to understand his familial relationships and am wary of this becoming an issue in the future. I have just loved being introduced to things like proper Vietnamese food: We are both educated and he is an extremely thoughtful and open-minded individual, so I feel we work perfectly together.

Considering my two previous relationships with white men who were quite closed about their feelings and beliefs, I am relieved to be with someone who, for example, can see the sexism and racism in the world, rather than remaining blissfully ignorant. And given that I also have a sister who is dating an Indian-Australian, I suspect she will keep her mouth zipped, or else suffer the backlash of two very strong-minded women, haha.

Anyway, despite my rambling, I just wanted to say thank you for your post and I look forward to reading more of your blog! I love reading stories like these. Before meeting my husband, I dated a couple of people nothing serious or more than a month , of different races. I think being in an interracial and intercultural relationship is one of the most interesting things that has ever happened to me. Hi Grace, this is such a fabulous blog.

Thank you so much for collecting all those wonderful stories. I would love to do a guest post for your site. Some succeed; others fail. All you can do is keep and open mind, be respectful, and be willing to change. The rest is up to your partner. In any case, once I finish the guest post, can I attach it as a Word document to your email gleenn offbeatmarriage. If you colour matched human colours against the true colours of black and white, that would become obvious.

Describing people as black and white re-enforces generic racial stereotypes and thus is racist in its effect, even though that might not be intended. The general concept of inter-racial dating would apply regardless of race or ethnicity. The term black and white when applied to people needs to be banished forever from the dialogue of describing race relations. Of course on a pigmented scale my skin tone is not white, but I choose to identify as white. When I lived in Ghana, I had several friends with white skin, born in Africa.

It works for this group. I feel like one of the big things this article left out is the way other Asians will look at the white female in the relationship. My husband is a tall, handsome Chinese American, and when we were stationed in Korea, everywhere we went people glared at me. Not to mention, his mother disowned him when he told her he wanted to propose to me before he even had a ring! My husband never had any problems with his family or friends — they were all incredibly supportive even though no one in his entire family could speak English. A couple months after he proposed, both his mother and father started taking English classes at a local community center so they could one day talk to my parents.

Fuji with his branch of police officers. That sounds very rude. Do you think his family or just other strangers are the most opposed to the relationship? I too have had to deal with this issue. I have dates 2 Asian men in my life and I am a white american woman. And not only dod I get criticism for being g with an Asian man. But everytime one of my boyfriends would take me out with his friends. They would scold me and make rude comments and it put a lot of stress on the relationship because I never wanted to spend time with his friends. Which of course was unfair but it was hard dealing with that on a daily basis.

Being a mother of a girl in a relationship with a Japanese national makes me want to reply. My daughter talked about this blog. I will be honest in saying that your young age made me kind of curious and doubtful at the same time. My girl is committed to a man as well.. After reading, looking at pictures, trying to understand you both as a couple, talking to my daughter about it.. I came to the following conclusion, everything could be advertised, shared on the internet with its pros and cons.

Many things made me think about your story line. For example, I asked myself how does a almost freshly graduated boy becomes a businessman.. According to your writings, he got a very good job in a pharmaceutical company which would be able to support you two in Japan, if needed. We know that businessman means a person who is involved in business matters, right?

I recall reading it somewhere.. I would ask myself all sorts of questions and you would like not hear them. Whereas I am sure about your parents being very supporting about you both and willing to be there no matter what future holds, I have my share of doubt as for the japanese side. When things will become though, eventually they will, they know that they will be forced to stand out for you.

Its a thought not all parents like, believe me.. This is out of experience. In short, internet has a huge power in spreading news, advertise,.. So far, you are making a good use of it to become known. Thank you for your honest message. I completely understand where you are coming from — the internet allows people to share their story or selective parts of their story in an open forum that can influence people easily. I would like to respond to a couple of points: My husband got a job at a pharmaceutical company this early because of the Japanese employment system. Many companies choose to ONLY hire current college students — they travel to the school, give a lecture, and interview a select number of students.

My husband then-fiance got a job about 7 months before he graduated, set to start in April. He signed contracts back in November, so he is currently registered as a company employee. He receives an additional bonus because he is married under the assumption he needs to support his new family. He worked incredibly hard to land that job and I am very proud of him.

Both of us were able to pay for college almost entirely out of pocket. Both sets of parents helped pay for room and board, but we were able to get various scholarships and grants to pay for our entire tuition — and even a generous grant from the US Dept of State paid for my study abroad. However, as you mentioned, we are young. We chose to use Honeyfund. My parents live in Africa; I moved to Japan less than a month after the wedding with only two suitcases. Even if people wanted to give us wedding gifts, we had no room. I love being married so young.

I think it is fantastic that I found my husband my Sophomore year of college. We still have plenty of time to travel, work, and enjoy marriage before having children. I think it is easier to get married so young, since neither of us are set in our ways and are very open to change. In any case, I hope I answered some of your questions. I hope your daughter does well with her Japanese lover — and that both sets of families are fully supportive.

You are welcome to hang out with us if you want to have a chat and make new friends http: I agree with your thoughts and what you said! My husband has gotten similar comments. True love can make basically anything work: My wife and I found your blog really interesting and were discussing it in detail the other day. Similarly, our families are great which has made things super easy.

But this one little quirk always makes us laugh a little. Pretty much guys would say I am the luckiest guy etc etc. But in reality, her looks are nut just a part of why I am with her. I can be and am that selective. As can she be.

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We are rarely addressed both in English or both in Japanese. The only difference maybe is because we are both catholic. My advise to Asians guys: Good luck to everyone. Then it gradually moved on to real life basis. There is no input from either friends or family which made it look so perfect. After moving on and making relationships more real and having had relationships with someone from UK, Kazakhstan, Russia and now Ukraine, I see the challenges and differences from different cultures and upbringing.

They loved me for just being me. I also get to discover a lot about post-soviet countries and realised they are perhaps more cultured and more traditional going as compared to West Europeans and American counterparts. It makes them much easier to integrate to daily lives in Asia.

One good thing I have to say is that, living in Malaysia, all you need to know, is English. But yes, making one girl wanting to stay here and live with you, has always been the biggest hurdle. Most girls I knew are from East Europe. Life would be much better here than their own country, but they do not always get job offers due to the fact they were not born in first nation countries, like USA, UK, Canada, Australia, etc. I find them to be a bit lunatic, pardon me as compared to Eastern European women, where they are much polite and sensible.

Solve that and everything would be great. This was interesting to read. I read part of it to my husband and he laughed. I like your post about successful love stories of Asian men with white girls. Asian men usually hang out with Asian friends. So, white women who date an Asian guy will have a hard time to get used to with it. So, if you are a white woman who date an Asian man, you may deal with it.

If it were a white male dating an Asian female, most of the negative attention from the others would disappear…: After seeing the comments AMWF potential of wealth creating, no wonder no white girls ever liked me back in Canada. Awwww, sorry to hear: Sure, there is negativity towards WMAF couples. I kind of wish people would just let it be. Some reading that you might enjoy: An exploration of the lives of white women who partnered Chinese men and their children in southern Australia, [Univ.

This looks really interesting. This article makes me miss that! Also, I studied in Akita for a year. What a great experience: I actually went to boarding school up in Sapporo for one year, called Hokkaido International School back in 9th grade, in like It was so cold. I went snowboarding every weekend. It was kind of my first experience with snow; by the end of the year I was done with the stuff. So good to read your blog!

I am just recently moved to Korea to be with my Korean partner, I am European and I must say every day is challenging, funny and amazing. I am actually AML[atina]F! I first read your blog about long distance relationship! I was glad I found your blog because at that time I was going through something similar.

However we were able to educate our families too. Thanks for sharing your story. I always love hearing from other AMWF or just other couples. Your fiancee sounds like a great guy — 6 years is incredible! A lot of Japanese people ask if my fiance is America — which is funny because he only started learning English a couple years ago. I live in Los Angeles and never have to deal with those questions about race. I have 3 beautiful children that look like a perfect mix of both our race. BTW, we have that exact picture of my wife in a Kimono. I really enjoyed reading your article on huffington post today on what not to ask interracial couples and followed you to your blog through there.

It is definitely different and more rare when the woman is white and the man is asian and you do get more questions and looks. In tokyo it wasnt as bad but in inaka and even kyoto i could sense a difference. I wouldnt say that we got a lot of bad reactions or looks but there was always one or two every three four months. I think that the stares and questions were not always to discriminate but it was curiosity, because to most japanese that is just so unfathomable, even though there are more and more interracial marriages in japan.

Oh by the way i have the same confusion when it comes to japanese women and their high heels as well! Anyways i look forward to reading more of your posts! Perhaps instead of feeling like a constant victim, how about start feeling and acknowledging you and your relationship as two people in love and wanting to be together.

The moment you think that…whether you like it or not…and I could care less what you think of me…is when you become racially aware and sensitive to the subjects you know, racist. Just so you can win what you want to be an argument? Just so you can deny your fear of people maybe someday judging you for being Asian, or for being an Asian who dates white women?

Have you thought that maybe SHE gets glares or comments from white men? Maybe she has an extremely weird fetish.

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Even Asians themselves have internalized this mindset. Look at how prevalent it is to see Asian female news anchors. The same thing has happened with topics that range from hikkikomori to enjou kosai to sexless young Japanese: Then the foreign media does the same thing.

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The story then arrives back in Japan, now blown out of proportion now morphed into a country-wide phenomenon and of course it must be true because every non-Japanese media outlet reported on it. Here is a link you may find interesting, not so much the article itself but the comments from foreigners married to Japanese nationals.

You may be surprised. A black man according to her will probably get out of control and screw up his family life. I have no direct experience with this not being black but from what I have seen in Japan there may be some truth to it. I would kind of expect that the other way around. But then again, I think relationships vary depending on who is involved. The angry husband then shows up in Japan demanding to see his kids and is promptly arrested. I think though that Japan may have finally signed whatever international treaty that would allow the husband the right to see his kids.

I actually do have a friend America who recently filed for divorce against his Japanese wife. Kayu, I can see the truth in this, even just in my circle of friends and acquaintances. I know quite a few Japanese women that are divorced from foreign men, but out of my many foreign friends which actually comprises a much larger circle married to Japanese men, only one has divorced! Must an an Asian guy be famous before he dates a white girl?

I mean, would that stop people from talking? I have dated a lot of white girls and never ever had a racist incident occur. In fact, I have had guys come up to me and shake my hand saying congrats etc in being with such a gorgeous girl. Mostly with my white girlfriends woof which, all have been natural blondes. If all your references of approval comes from the media…then you are in for a very lonely life absent of any true meaningful relationships. Whoop dee frickin do. My girlfriend is hotter than Lindsey Vonn because my girl is a natural blonde and his former wife though she is a natural blonde.

Racism has a very broad definition. And I think it is a little uncalled for to call people creepy and pathetic. This blog is for people to chat and share their experiences, not to belittle or attack others.

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Everyone is allowed to have their own opinion. The congrats was never because of the fact that she is white. Mit is because she is amazingly stunningly drop dead gorgeous.

The last Asian girl was also very good looking and she also got a lot of stares of approval from guys etc. The most negative vibes was always from other women. White, black and especially Asian. Because she is with a really good looking guy. And guys like me are very hard to come by. Much harder to come across a guy like me than any smoking hot girl. I have had always positive comments from guys of all races, Asians, blacks, whites…. Latinos hold back for some reason. But they sure do the little cat calls to her even when we are together. Racism will be presnt IF you look and read into things.

I work and live in a VERY white part of the country and state. Good for you for scoring such an awesome girl. I wish you the best in your relationship — regardless of where you live. Ater reading about your experience with dating an asian guy, I will have to disagree with pretty everything you have gone through with your asian boyfriend.

Your experiences with your Asian boyfriend is because you are dating a FOB. Fresh off the boat. I do not go to the beach to go squid fishing. I go to the beach to lay in the sun and try and get some color in. I hate being white as a ghost which most Asians love being. Your observations and experiences, while unique to you are borderline offensive for someone like me.

In my experience, I have never considered the race of the girl I was dating. I had to like the girl for who she is. Not what she is. The majority of the girls I dated were white. All blonde come to think of it. And all were and are very attractive. I have taken all my girlfriends White and Asian to dim sum etc. No one as ever come up to her and say that she should be dating a white guy. In fact, the only evil glares she gets are from Asian women. Probably because she snagged one of the few very tall good looking Asian guys out there yeah, I am good looking and not shy about it.

And neither is anybody on her side. To me, it sounds like you have a very close minded circle that needs more variety to understand what real life is all about. And, it sounds to me that you are making an issue out of something that I have never noticed to be an issue. I think you make a couple of excellent points. A majority of our relationship has not, in fact, been in America — it has been in Japan.

Lots of people never notice the race of their partner and if you can get away with that, good for you. The first time he left Japan was to study abroad in America. Hey Grace, love your blog. I love reading stories like this, great stuff. By the way, this Jason person is a total liar and nothing but a troll. He keeps trolling on other interracial sites. I have a feeling this person is a non asian in real life and is just really jealous for whatever reason. Also, thanks so much for catching that.

Perhaps the difference is that she lives in Japan. Her fiance is from Japan. So then, why do you even compare your experience with hers? He is good looking. Sound similar to your experience? However, over the years I have received rude, critical glares, and even rude comments, from American white men about why I was dating or am married to him.

It sounds archaic, right? Well, good for you. Now, get over it. If you feel that there is. A difference then ther will be a difference. I have never even knew that interracial relationships were a big deal until I was older. I was just with girls whom I liked and they liked me. I never saw myself as Asian. And I never saw my girlfriends as white or Asian etc. I just saw them.

No white guy has ever come up to her and told her to be with a white guy. Nor has a white guy ever come up to me and told me to leave their white women alone. My reason for us not experiencing the racism that everyone here seems to have? Because we own one another. We look like we being together we look like we are together and belong together. If you as a couple look odd. You are going to get negative reactions. If he lacks confidence being with you. People can tell and will comment in it.

If you look uncomfortable with him, despite how many years with him, you will get comments. I think one gets the idea. I still think you hold a very narrow view and experiences. People in different locations, or the people you may interact with, are all different. This proves that there is racism that goes along with it.

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Many friends supported our marriage, etc. Of course we have had looks and glares etc. And the comments I get from men are of congratulating me on how lucky I am to be with such a hot woman. Or they will cat call her with me there etc. We do get glares from older Asian women. But never ever from any guy directly to her or I to stay within our own race. I do believe it is how the couple looks together. And I do believe that it also depends on how comfortable you appear with one another.

In my opinion, most Asian guys are not very good looking at all. But to me, they are physically unattractive. Even my girlfriend confirms that Asian men in general are not attractive. Nor are Asian men socially smooth. I have a lot of Asian guy friends and they are so awkward that it borders on being handicapped.

I have been and am in a relationship. I am with the girl I am with because of who she is. Not because she is hot. Perhaps it is you who is racist because you notice the racial difference in your relationship all the time and make it a point of contention. You sound like a guy who grew up in a mostly White environment and was never allowed to forget it. You forgot my old Asian Playboy blog http: I came across your blog after a prolonged procrastination session trying to avoid an excruciating paper writing process.

The effect of this was that it served to inhibit many of my early forays into dating, and remained a damper on my confidence when finding a girl attractive. If she was white it seemed like she was unattainable, or the expectation was that she would most likely not even take me into consideration. We share so many interests, preoccupations and personality quirks that race seems like a completely irrelevant technicality.

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